I make my gin and tonic a certain way. It’s the way I make it each and every time, and I am very particular about the order and the ingredients. I take my Riedel stemless wine glass (frankly these are only good for gin and have no place for wine. For wine, give me a stem any day). I must have at LEAST 4 cubes of ice – sometimes 5 – ice is a good thing. More gin than the standard nip (I call it creative licence) a dash of lime cordial, Schweppes Indian Tonic Water (no NOT waste your time on that cheap Aldi stuff, it’s shit) a squeeze of fresh lemon and a lemon CHEEK. I give it a mix and I drink it. This is the order. This is the way it is. And, for me, the whole process is very pleasant.
I was in the car the other day listening to someone talk about a study that had been completed studying the notion of ritual. People were given the same say, jelly bean (I can’t remember now what it was) with half the participants asked to do a certain number of steps (say unwrap it, place it on a plate, turn it three times etc) and the others not. The people who went through the ‘ritual’ enjoyed the item up to 50% more.
It got me thinking about the rituals we create for ourselves with our own day-to-day stuff. Preparing a pot of tea. Soup. Dinner for someone who we love. Making a bed. Setting the cushions just so. Drawing the blinds at night, lighting candles. A process of steps that we ALWAYS follow – that bring pleasure and joy to what could be a menial task.
I know I do this with many things I do in any given day: The way I make my bed each day. The sheets this way, the doona that, the throw placed THUSLY. The way I make my tea. The way I will set a table, place some flowers, light a candle. Ritual is something that we automatically do, but means something to us. Intriguing don’t you think?
I’d love to know about your rituals?
An order of things that happen before you log into your computer?
A special way to make something?
A process that just HAS to be followed in that order?
Ritual sounds so much better than OCD don’t you think?