I have a three-year old. And she is always hungry. Well, she thinks so at least. Most of the time it’s just boredom, or tiredness, but hunger seems to be the default. And it’s not just food. She’s hungry for attention. For activities. For STUFF. So much stuff. She’s just so hungry, for so many things. She’s three years old. That’s just what they do I suppose.
I fear that I’ve been failing her. Don’t we always think we are doing something wrong as a parent at some stage? I’ve been busy and I’ve been fitting her in, not the other way around. I’ve been lazy and thrown my phone or iPad at her so I can get stuff done, or get some peace and quiet. I buy her little things, so many little things along the way because I can, and because sometimes I don’t want to deal with the tantrum and drama that will follow. Filling her up with stuff that doesn’t seem to making any difference at all, in fact, it just makes her want more. More treats. More things. More games. MORE. MORE. MORE.
There are so many kids out there in the world who have nothing, want for nothing. Happy to play with some rocks, making up games as they go, using their imagination. I worry about our lazy kids. My own daughter who thinks she wants so much, and me as the Mother who isn’t giving her what she really needs. We’re making some changes and we’ll get there, mostly it’s me that needs to shift my mind-set, they don’t need more STUFF, I’ll be strong and just say no for a change. Treats will be that, a one-off, given from a well-meaning Grandparent. I want to get back amongst the trenches, get into the parenting while I can.
While she still needs me to.
Do you worry about this stuff too?
Imagine a month of saving from all those little ‘things” like treats and shitty toys that break and using that towards something better? An activity. A donation to a charity.
How do you teach kids the notion of ENOUGH?