Today I was reading my favourite blogs – first port of call the famous Mrs Woog. Her post struck some chords with me – what do women really look like after they have given birth? I have seen plenty of shots of people of Facebook, post baby, MASCARA on, looking fabulous! Because you do! Don’t you? Post labour? I have been that person, writing that comment, saying “You look ridiculous! YOU JUST GAVE BIRTH” and I’m sure they think, “Oh that Beth! She’s so funny!”
But really. I meant it. YOU LOOK RIDICULOUS. YOU JUST GAVE BIRTH!
So. I went and took some snaps on my iPhone of what I looked like and posted it up on Mrs Woog’s Facebook page. Because NO ONE LOOKS LIKE THAT. Seriously, go and have a look at some of the most amazing and beautiful picture you will ever see. Go on. GO.
For those interested, this is me. This is what a woman looks like after she has been pushing a posterior baby out of her vagina for 2 hours and 45 minutes (no, I’m not joking). It’s what a woman looks like after she has vomited. And shat. And been given the most precious gift in the world. And when she is truly terrified, when she realises that she is the only person that can make that baby stop crying.
Holy FUCK man.
Can you see that look? On my Mum’s face? When she realises “Oh God. Now she gets it.” And she’s touching my hand, and not the baby, because ohmygodnowshegetsit? This is when you have to grow up? And my sister who is ALL about the baby? The cutesy baby?
My other personal favourite from the family album is the one below. The Pediatrician took this one because he was called in with all the dramas and the long pushing thing and it’s a nice shot? Right? Rob, with the baby?
Except. When you look a little closer, you can see Mummy getting her EPISIOTOMY SEWN UP. There should be choirs! Of angels singing! I CAN SEE THE LIGHT!
That’s how women look. It’s real. It’s freaking scary. And raw. And at times horrific. But it’s life. And really, you wouldn’t change a thing.
If you wanted to read some more of Daisy’s birth story, you can do so here. But really, all you need is that snap. Isn’t it?
You’re most welcome!