It’s been a strange sort of a day, and by strange I mean completely all consuming with worry, and angst and worry and stuff. Not about anything big, or life or death, or really even worth all or any of the energy & focus I have given it today. You see there was a bit of a negative review of Rob’s show that ran as the leading article on the online entertainment page of the Age, SMH, Brisbane times, WA Times and by bit, I mean quite so. Well, let’s just say that the show is called I ROCK and her article was entitled I SUCK. So yes, quite so.
I get it. I get that people are paid to review TV and that their opinion is valued, so much so, that major publications will pay her money to voice it. I understand that when you put yourselves out there creatively with some form of art – be it painting, or poetry, or screenwriting that people will either get it. Or not. And I’m not going to try to explain the show – try and give example of where I think she was wrong, or right, because I am of course, completely bias and couldn’t even try and be impartial if I wanted.
It’s just that…well…I read it and worried. Worried for Rob and Dave and Josh and how it might be making them feel. I mean, I got through the first few paragraphs and then all I could see was “This show is shit, your husband is a dumbass and did I mention that you, by association are also a dumbass?”. I don’t know why, I just did, so I can’t imagine what they saw when they read it. I took it as some sort of personal attack – when it couldn’t have been further from the truth. She was just doing her job. As PPMJ said to me in a lovely, thoughtful email: Humour’s an individual thing. Certain people will find thing amusing, others won’t. Two and A Half Men is apparently considered hilarious by large sections of the population – yet, after watching 10 minutes of it so I didn’t miss Survivor this week I can’t say I found anything even worthy of a wry smile. Let’s not even mention the fashion that he sports in that show – hello loafers and socks, shorts and over sized shirt I am talking to you. And of course for all my constant flogging of the show about how great it is, there should be the other side of the story, a differing opinion. Any publicity is good publicity right? It’s just a bitter pill to swallow.
And because she is but one of the haters of the show – and there are always going to be haters – I have decided that there is no point to be nasty back. Sure my brother said this : This woman not only bags I Rock, she also has a crack at career advisers!! She would be exactly like the “appalling, artificial, robotic” cliches that she describes. I can just imagine her… a skanky psuedo intellectual from private school who struggles with attaining the balance of achieving social equality via occasionally dipping into Centelink funding (when she’s in a creative> writing phase) with the Sunday lunches she has with a glass of Moss Wood Cabernet at her parent’s house at Roseville discussing Barack Obama. There is no doubt that she wants to laugh at Celine Dion singing who let the dogs out, but can’t bring herself to have fun, in case someone is watching. He said that, and sure, that made me feel a little better for a few minutes at least, but I won’t bite back. Nope, not me. I’m bigger than that. I mean I am a mother, of TWO kids, and everything.
I guess I just need to toughen up. Man up ladybug and not take everything SO freaking personally. And perhaps admit that I am a teeny bit jealous that this bird gets to watch TV AND review it AND be paid for it when I think I would be really, really, really good at that myself. I am not going to keep punishing myself by going onto music forum discussions where everyone thinks that this is the dumbest thing ever, and keep reading this shit. This negative shit. I am also going to follow the following rules about haters…
1. It doesn’t matter how many people don’t get it. What matters is how many people do.
2. 10% of people will find a way to take anything personally. Expect it
3. “Trying to get everyone to like you is a sign of mediocrity.” (Colin Powell)
4. “If you are really effective at what you do, 95% of the things said about you will be negative.” (Scott Boras)
5. “If you want to improve, be content to be thought foolish and stupid.” (Epictetus)
6. “Living well is the best revenge.” (George Herbert)
7. Keep calm and carry on.
I am going to go home, to our beautiful little family in our lovely little house and deal with eczema issues, and poo related explosions (maybe drink some wine, OK a lot of wine) and have a dance off to this song like we did last night. That’s what really matters.