My Pa Frank died yesterday. He has been sick for a few a months now so we knew that it was coming but still I feel very sad. I still can’t believe that you can be here one day and then not. I am glad that he is out of his pain now and can rest in peace. I am also glad that he got to meet Daisy and be a part of her life even if it was for a short time.
When I think back about him in my life I remember him as a quiet man of strong presence. He would let you know what he liked and didn’t like but wouldn’t say a lot in between. He would always like to have a laugh and I would always go out of my way to make him do so. He was a devoted husband – he loved my grandmother and was devasted when she died a few years ago. In fact I think from the moment he lost her he lost his will to live. He was a hard worker – he worked to provide for his children and grandchildren and was thrifty – always looking for ways to save money and make things himself if he could.
I hope that I can take on some of his characteristiscs and bring them into my own life. I hope that I will always work as hard as I can and do whatever I can for my children and not complain about it. In this day and age we get so caught up with the so called ‘stresses’ we have in our lives when we really do have it easy. Daisy always has something to eat, good clothes to wear and a comfy bed to sleep in. They are certainties in her life. I complain about going to work when it’s not that bad – an air con office in a great location where I sit on my arse all day. He worked hard and provided for his family. I hope I can be as dedicated a wife to Rob. I hope that if Rob gets sick in the future that I look after him and love him just as much then as I did when we first met. I hope I can still be patient and loving to him if he gets sick, or goes a little crazy. I also hope that I can take on some of his silence. I am always go go go when sometimes things are better left unsaid. A quiet presence in moments is not such a bad thing.
So, here’s to you Pa. I love you and I will miss you. I hope you are happy wherever you are and I hope that we will meet again somewhere, sometime for a drink and a prawn cocktail.